In the midst of everyday life and the stresses of completing endless to-do lists, we often forget to take a little time in the day for ourselves. We have trouble making ourselves feel like enough of a priority to put at the top of our list! It’s time to schedule some “me time”, darlings! Everyday, we experience the stresses (and joys) that come with being a good girlfriend, dedicated wife, caring parent, loving daughter, understanding sister, loyal friend, driven professional, diligent student, and so much more. In order to continue with these relationships and responsibilities you need to recharge to sustain the endless energy needed to, well, be you! For sanity’s sake, darlings, take a break! You don’t need to go on a week-long vacation, call in “sick” to work, or burn your to-do list- just set aside 15-30 minutes a day all to yourself. Just as you would schedule time in your planner for an important event or booked appointment, you should schedule in your “me time”. Don’t wait for this time to magically appear, because it wont! There will always be another work assignment, another friend that needs to vent, another fix-it around the apartment, etc. so schedule it.Give yourself 15-30 minutes of uninterrupted time, where YOU are your only priority.
Our society has become a perpetual stream of multitasking. Even when we’re hanging out with friends we are constantly texting someone else. We are finishing up a business report, but also on Facebook while simultaneously eating our lunch. During the hallway convo with your boss, you’re thinking about how you have to get back to your office and send an email to so-and-so. Not only should you set aside the time for yourself, but you should be making it a focused time without the multitasking. Turn off your phone (horrific suggestion, I know). Be present in the moment. We lose many of life’s “moments” because we are always focused on what we have to do next rather than enjoying the one that moment we’re in.
“We have to build in battery recharge time. We’re very good at project management in our work lives, but not so well in our personal lives. Treat it like any project: I want to recharge my batteries so I don’t feel so frazzled and worn out.”
-Margaret Moore (Co-Director of the Institute of Coaching at Harvard Medical School)
“Making time for yourself is not selfish. You have to take care of yourself in order to help others. But so many people feel guilty about it. This is especially true for women, who often neglect their needs in the service of their friends and family- only to end up cheating everyone”
Here are ten “me time” suggestions for your prescribed 15-30 minutes a day to be “selfish”:
1. Sit with a cup of coffee and just daydream or read the paper.Yes, an old-fashioned newspaper, the kind that has actual pages– not one on your iPad that will notify you if a new email, FB message, or Insta like comes in.
2. Take a walk. Not one that has a destination that you are rushing to. Not one with your phone glued to your hand allowing time to text back all the messages you received while at work, just a lazy stroll.
3. Listen to music. Create a playlist with songs that make you feel genuinely happy and relaxed.
4. Glance through your fave magazine. Whether it’s fashion, beauty, gossip, politics, health, travel… thoroughly enjoy catching up on the latest and greatest.
5. Write in a journal. If writing is something that is therapeutic for you, then grab a pen and let your thoughts run across the page.
6. Take a bubble bath. Run the hot water, throw in a bath bomb, and just soak.
7. Clear your mind and meditate. Whatever meditating looks like for you, spend some time to clear your mind and re-focus.
8. Give yourself a mani/pedi. Pick a color, any color, and put on a fresh coat- actually being able to take the time to let it dry before you rush on about your day.
9. Cook your favorite dish. Now, this one is not for those of you who despise cooking and get stressed out by the word “spatula”. But for those of us that find comfort in the kitchen, give yourself the opportunity to bust out your favorite cook book.
10. Read a book. Sit in a comfy chair with a cup of tea, and get lost in the pages.
Better to take a few minutes in your day to recharge then to go on with your day burning fuel and end up getting burnt out. Not only will your “me time” help you to get in touch with yourself, but it helps to improve your focus and find more enjoyment once you’re back in the company of others. We all lead busy lives, but it’s funny how it seems that we make time for everyone and everything but ourselves! So today, darlings, put YOU on your to-do list!